1. Think about the time your child whines. What happened just before your child started complaining? Could your child be tired or sick? Could your child be trying to get your attention and has failed? If you see patterns in causality, try to create processes to prevent these factors.
2. Be clear and steadfast. Tell your child that you want to meet his or her needs, but expect him or her to ask with respect. When your child whines, say, "I would love to help you, but I expect you to ask in a polite tone." Encourage nurses, parents, grandparents to act like you. If whining has benefits for the child and he gets what he wants, he will continue to do it.
3. Do not order. Do not say, "Don't cry anymore" because the child will not follow your instructions and will cry louder and louder when he is confronted with your anger and rage. Ask him, "What do you want?", "Why are you crying?", "Tell me what happened." As soon as your sentences are positive, kind and reassuring, your baby will forget about crying.
4. Model how to ask politely. Your child may not know what "whining" is. Make sure your child knows what is the good and polite way for asking.
5. Strengthen positive behavior. When your child uses the right tone, make sure you reinforce this behavior. It is the most powerful tool in behavior change. Take time; Whenever your child uses the right tone or asks for something without whining, say "good use of a good voice!" or "Yes! I can help you because you used the right tone. It's fantastic that you used your good voice politely and got what you wanted!"
6. Reflection and improvement. Think about what you did right and what you did wrong that day when your child was whining. Did you get angry? What can you do to get closer to the desired situation? Strategies such as breathing exercises and relaxation, resting before the child enters the house, allocating time for the child to talk, and having a regular schedule for household chores can be good ideas to reduce the child's possible whining.
7- Do not be strict. If you feel that your child is in a bad mood, set aside strict parenting principles. For this group of children, a normal tone of voice is enough to understand something and you do not need to raise your voice. A few simple tips are enough for your child. He does not need any level of violence or threats.